Dammit Doll

Missives by Michelle

I ran across this interesting doll as I was perusing an antique mall Sunday with my sister-in-law and niece. I decided to do a little research on it as I knew it would make an interesting post and I would have to get one. The Dammit Doll. The Dammit Doll is a 12- inch, stuffed fabric doll cleverly designed to express your anger by slamming it against something. There are several different saying that can be said and numerous different doll representations as well.


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sports doll Here are some of the different types of occupations that are available with their own dammit or dang-it sayings.



preschool                                                        The dammit dolls have become very popular since their conception in 2010. They have even become a great hit…

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Still Stuck with Doubts

Couldn’t have written this better myself. We are all on the same journey. I seems as though, society has made it ok to throw away a marriage. It forgets, however, feelings cannot be thrown away.

Happily Ever After OR The Search For

Still stuck with Doubts

Is it possible that I am making way more out of all of this than need be?
Am I really just an undesirable person who’s husband stepped out.
Is he really a sociopath? Extreme Narcissist?
Or is he really trying to turn his wandering ways into something good?
Maybe he is.
Does that mean I should wish him well and even maybe have a bit of respect for him?
Compassion and understanding…….

No! Hell NO! Stop making excuses for that bastard.

Why do I always want to expect the best from him when he has proven over and over that anything he does to hurt or betray me is just plain evil and wrong.

Some would argue that what he has done is noble and many worse things could have happened,
He never beat you, he provided you with a home and food and a car.

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Guest Post: Are you there, Divine? It’s me, Keri.

WOW. It truly is Amazing to read people’s stories. I don’t feel so alone now. Thank you for sharing.

Lessons From the End of a Marriage

While I am away for a few days, I am sharing a series of guest posts from some awesome bloggers. This one is from Keri Rumley, a single mom and expressive art therapist. She explains why she writes on her About page:

I began this blog as an attempt to utilize my own creative process as a tool for healing. I also knew I needed to write to connect to others in a time of extreme isolation, to be seen and witnessed in my experience of loss and hopefully to inspire and help others.

So, read on and be inspired. Just be forewarned, you may need to have some tissues nearby; this one brought tears to my eyes.

Are you there Divine? It’s me, Keri.

Today I received an eviction notice from my landlord. No reasons were stated, just that the kids and I needed to move out within 45 days…

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Life Before and After the Mask….Now I’m FREE!

GOOD Mom Bad Wife

mask      Today will be a little different.  A follower of my blog wanted to share her story of divorce and how for many years she lived under a “mask” of deceit.  After reading her entry I decided to post it because so often in life it seems like we do things so “save face” or to please others which can be a high price to pay especially when your not happy.  I can only imagine the considerable amount of pressure and stress that has to put on you the individual as well as the family and marriage.    So thanks for the submission.  These are her words unedited.

Life Before and After the Mask….Now I’m FREE!

Let me start off by asking a question…have you ever just stopped and wondered why you feel like you feel, but you weren’t able to put your ‘finger’ on what is the problem? Well, I…

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Living and Loving Beyond Betrayl

This will be very helpful. I can’t wait to read it. I need help. Am 45, married 18 years, 21 together, he texted me that he had filed papers. The process has started and after 21 years under his control, I have no clue “Who I Am”, other than SAD

Missives by Michelle

A fellow blogger recently recommended this book to me. I thought I would pass on the recommendation with an excerpt for those of you who need to move beyond their betrayal. Happy reading and future growing.

living and loving

Betrayal has many faces, including anger, abuse, deceit, and infidelity. These feel like betrayal because they violate the implicit promise of emotional bonds, that your loved one will care about your wellbeing and never intentionally hurt you. If you’ve recently left a relationship where you felt betrayed by your partner—or if you want to repair one—it can seem impossible to view the world without the shadow of past betrayal hovering over you. As a result, you may struggle to create meaning in your life, find the strength to forgive, or build new, loving relationships.

In Living and Loving after Betrayal, therapist and relationship expert Steven Stosny offers effective tools for healing, based on his…

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When Life Turns out Differently than You Planned

Seems so simple, yet it truly is a complicated process, emotionally. Thank you for writing this. It is nice to know there is hope after 21 years and 5 kids. 2 of whom have Aspergers.

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When I was a little girl, I had a plan. After I graduated from high school, I would go to college and get a degree. Then I would travel the world for 3 years, after which point I would get married and have 4 children. Three boys, and a little girl who would be protected by her three older brothers.

Of course as I quickly learned, life doesn’t always turn out as we’ve  planned. For one thing, I dropped out of college after two years. Then I got married at 21 and had my first child at 22.  I hadn’t traveled the world. I did have four kids but they were out of order-my daughter came 3rd in line, not 4th.  I did not expect to have three children who were on the autism spectrum.

I doubt if anyone ever puts divorce in their life plans. I know I certainly…

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Starting over, by Surprise